Tuesday, August 30, 2011

For a Reason or a Season ?

Some times I have trouble dealing with people. I used to blame myself if people act up, if I read some bitterness in  their face, or if they do not respond to my call .Me saying this, might be a surprise for most who know me as a serial facebooker which I don’t deny. I am a social-networker but not a social animal. My aunt used to tell me “ሰውን ምን አደረኩት ብቻ አትበይ ምን አድርጎኛልም በይ” that did not work either as you can't always make others at fault just to feel better and it is not always that people grow apart because of what happened between them or of dispute or of disagreement. Sometimes it is just the time and the truth of the matter is relationships are not straight forward rather a two-way thing and very dynamic.

Here I have shared a Yoruba inspirational writing which in some way gave me the perfect answer about people that come to and leave out of my life.

When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly. They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally, or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend, and they are. They are there for the reason you need them to be. Then, without any wrong -doing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end. Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away. Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand. What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done. The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.

When people come into your life for a
SEASON, it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn. They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh. They may teach you something you have never done. They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy. Believe it! It is real! But only for a season.


  1. Mahi, i have that guilt feeling too, but what i found out is sometimes they might not even thought as we thought.....our mind usually create some kind of drama that will never happen. I could say you have to ask the person about the situation right away so that you will get relief.....most probably there is nothing bad in their mind. They might get personal problems or so.

  2. Yeah Yodit this is after all that meaning after you try try try to know what the reason is by asking them or by reminiscing your last encounter but I believe sebeqa yebeqal :) ayemeseleshem ?

  3. How about someone coming into your life for a reason but not just for a season!? And how long is a season, by the way!? Is it a seasonal or a reasonal,if you will, relationship that is likely to grow to an emotional connection?

  4. OK, if that is the case then i would say forget about the situation and keep your mind and heart pure...pure in a sense try not to think any negative about them....i am not a people person at all, but this is the way i am trying/struggling to do......."dealing with difficult people" by father Antony Messih might help us here dear.

  5. I think, it's not a bad idea to see if anything wrong done from our side causing the relationship to end up.If there is no one we can think of,it's great to ask that person for any clue to act appropriately.Don't know exactly what action would be "appropriate" except for the fact that it should be for the better whether to work on and getting better and stronger it that relationship or end it in peace.In a situation that this is not an an option,MinTareGiwaLesh ? ...Just keep on moving while cherishing the good times when memories flash back..i am sure of one thing ....all those that came to my life has contributed their share in defining who I was and who i am ...life keeps going and so do the coming and departure of people to our life,for better or worse....sorry for the incoherent ideas i conveyed ...i have to eat my lunch ...so hungry ....